When I take a moment and look at our family from the outside looking in I find it somewhat overwhelming. I would imagine that some would say we are just plain crazy for all we take on. Two full time working parents, 6 kids, our family is active in our church, our kids do extracurricular activities- one per child, exercise regularly and in our downtime always finding adventures and outings for the kids. Frequently I will be asked or hear the comment “just how do you do it all?”. My response is simple, we don’t do it, we are not capable of doing it on our own, we are not made to do anything on our own, God give us the strength to push through and persevere during this season of busy, at times chaotic, our season of READY-SET-GO.
My strength comes from the Lord……Philippians 4:13
This is our season of busy and I realize this is a brief fleeting moment in our lives and one day will be gone and we just may miss the busy. I am making an honest and conscious effort each day to not get frustrated or annoyed with the small insignificant details and truly appreciating each moment as a gift on God in this challenging and wonderful journey of parenthood. This can be a struggle for me as I tend to be a perfectionist and lean towards the OCD side of the spectrum, I while I am not always successful in these efforts however with God’s wisdom and guidance I am aware and I am improving.
If we don’t take it moment by moment and enjoy it for what it is, will blink our eyes and one day it will be gone.
As these hours, day, weeks and months are slipping by so quickly yet the are so incredibly important in the molding defining and shaping of our children into the young adults they will become. Of course the most important and vital element in them growing up is their salvation, growing to truly know Christ as their Lord and Savior. The most vital aspect for us as parents is to live the example.
You cannot teach your children to live a life for Christ when your are not living yours for Christ.
Wow! This truth and realization cuts me deep and convicts me to my core. This makes me really question and evaluate myself. When my kids see me and how I am living do they see joy in all circumstances? Not likely. Do they see a patient and kind spirit? Sometimes, in all honesty not as they see see an impatient spirit.
Galatians 5:22-23 ‘ but the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.’
We cannot expect our children to learn to live in a way that we are not able to. For example look at healthy eating, we can teach our kids day in and day out what healthy choices are, what they should be eating and how that should be exercising however we lose credibility when we eat junk and sit on the couch. It does not matter what words come out of our mouths if our actions do not match them.
John A. Younts writes this in his book titled “Everyday Talk.” “Parents, God has given you a mission to make Him known in every corner of life. To pursue this mission takes great courage. As you walk along life’s road with your children, you must literally deny yourself in order to speak first about God and how He views this world. When your child hears and learns about God this way he will indeed be clothed with honor and crowned with grace.” I love this perspective, as parents raising our children to know God we must deny ourselves.
I can look back and see how far God has brought me already in the last few years, God has transformed my heart and my life in many ways already. I am so amazingly thankful to God and all He has done and for always being faithful and patient and loving with me. So as I self-reflect on my many areas of weakness in my living the example of Christ for our children I turn to God for wisdom, guidance and direction to grow into the mother and woman He created me to be.
Psalm 106:1 ‘Praise the Lord. Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever.’
Lord, thank You so much for the great honor and blessing of being a mother. I know that in the moments of busy I do not always handle my words, emotions, or actions the way You would. I fall short every single day. I reach out to You and pray for continued strength, wisdom, discipline and guidance to continue to grow and transform into a godly mother and an example to our children to love You and live my life for You bringing You glory in all I do. You have blessed me and my family abundantly, thank You for Your many blessings thank You for the greatest blessing of all Your son dying for our transgressions so that we may have eternal life with You Lord. Thank You for loving me and our children, I pray they see and feel Your love through me in all circumstances.
In Jesus name ~Amen.